Fear of Relationship

Fear of Relationship

David Rim

What people need is wisdom not therapists and relationship experts. Where to obtain that wisdom depends on each individual journey. What is the rush to seek a relationship? Every excuse listened to has a strategy to navigate around it.

Whether its people that have dating profiles, apps, or just actively seeking for one reason or another. If you believe in a God its a little easier to follow along. Since God generally just hands you everything on a silver platter if that's what you need. Its almost like a call to destiny. Your hearts supposed to be focus on this invisible God, because that's where the fountain of life is stored.

There is probably more bad and ugly in relationships that come to the surface then anything fruitful. You would just need to search deep in the moments of what it means to you. Might be an invisible law where if you aren't looking it comes to you. And those who are seeking probably has some slight adjustments needed to be made for running optimally. Many times it is just our innate fear or lack of being confrontational. Its not about keeping up with generational trends or people blocking/ghosting letting their own insecurities get the best of them. You do not need to worry about others peoples preconceived notions or judgements. Your self value is the character you can hold when things are rough. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. We operate on two different wavelengths. Wisdom is just all stashed away in that ancient book called the Bible.

As for my sake I have been salsa dancing with the devil. Just to see who will take the dip first. The only words I can say is there are many cute people out there. Cute my general word for everything without having to dive too deep. I am no one special, but my gifts have been sharpened enough. Most of the time I just say a few words and no one's wise enough to see through the poker face. And if I shine too brightly then it could feel like a fairytale moment like where did this person come from?

As some wise people have always told me. Make a super detailed list of what you want. And give that up to God. You need to dig deep and figure out what you want vs what you need and some in-betweens.

Been a long year. Been wanting to throw in the white towel more often then not. Yet, I am reminded of my friends light that died far too early. Many stories that weren't fully told that leaves me wanting to hear the rest of their stories. Many cut too short. Maybe it was a promise I made with God that keeps me from disappearing fully into the evening like a ninja.

Who did I see today? Who did I not get to see? Who was I able to get in contact with? Which chess piece did I move? Who am I praying over? What did I really want to happen today? But what did God want me to see?